Powerful ENERGY

Powerful love, powerful marriage, powerful man

Powerful book, powerful knowledge, powerful mind

Powerful companion, powerful relationship, powerful connection

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."

— Mark Twain

Smart Power = Hard Power + Soft Power of attraction and persuasion.

Triangle of leadership : leader, follower, and the contexts in which they interact.
Current leadership theory is neocharismatic and transformational approach. Charisma/personal magnetism : soft power/attractive power

Leadership is an art, not a science, but even art benefits from criticism.
Type and skills of leaders. Charismatic and noncharismatic. Transformational and transactional.
The key skill: inspirational skills of vision, communication, and emotional IQ, political and organizational skills related to transaction. contextual intelligence essential for smart power -Culture, the distribution of power, followers needs and demands, crisis situation, and information flows-.
Good contextual intelligence broadens the bandwidth of leader so that they can develop.


Masculine leadership style: assertive, competitive, authoritaria, and focused on commanding the behavior of others.
Feminine leadership style: colaborative, participatory, integrative, and aimed at co-opting the behavior of followers.

The history of what man has accomplished in this world, is at bottom the History of the Great Men who have worked here. Thomas Carlyle


Eventful vs event-making leader

Leaders depend on ad are partly shaped by followers.


Appropriate style depends on the context. There are "autocratic situation" and "democratic situations", normal and crisis conditions, and routine and novel crises. Good DIAGNOSIS of THE NEED FOR CHANGE (or not) is essential for contextual intelligence.

Leaders are not mere deciders, they help a group decide how to decide.
Empowered followers empower leaders.

EQ and practical knowledge are more important than pure IQ in judgement.

Creating identities in intergroup leadership is difficult but crucial.


source: thepowertolead



authority (or deception?)-manipulation-intimidation

well sorted leader?

Reading (and Understanding) People

Evaluate people's compley characteristics and how to see the overall pattern those characteristics form-the pattern that truly can reveal and predict behavior.

The truth is hard to see, especially when we don't want to see it. Don't shop when you're hungry. The person with the greatest need is more likely to fill it Mr. or Ms. Wrong.

-action speak louder than words-

Intellectual evening at the home: exposing the children to debates on many subject (those will be their interest in the future)

Golda Meir said,
"To the extent that my own future convictions were shaped and given form... those talk-filled nights in Denver played a considerable role."

Carlos Slim Helú, the Mexican telecommunications billionaire, defended his lack of charity and his refusal to sign the Giving Pledge. “What we need to do as businessmen is to help to solve the problems, the social problems,” he said in an interview on CNBC. “To fight poverty, but not by charity."

Source: Forbes

The beauty and the ugliness of life

What is your most beautiful and ugliness of life?

LIFE is in the dEtAiLs

Life is nothing if not the details of time and place that identify the work and relationships that define our existence.


Ernest Hemingway once wrote, "Every man's life ends the same way. It is only the details of how he lived and died that distinguish one from another." How we work with the details of life defines not only our days but also our capacity to love. Love happens in the context of the smallest of acts. Our feelings are interpreted through the multiple yet brief interactions that imprint in our frail memory and become the story we tell about who we are and who we love. The tenor of our voice, the softness of a glance, the patient waiting by the door, the listening of what has been heard before says everything about how we allow the details to shape our relationships and our heart.


Life of politic, life of fashion, life of society, life of spiritual consciousness.... etc, lies in the details.

Be curious, be alive! Discover something fresh

“I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift would be curiosity.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

Here are 10 good reasons why you should unleash your curiosity:

1. You Will Clarify Yourself – Curiosity allows you to shed light on your troubles, thoughts, and personal circumstances.  It motivates you to uncover the truth about the nuances of your life.  When curiosity is properly honed, it serves as a vehicle for establishing personal goals.
2. You Will Uncover the Truth - All that seems obvious in life is not necessarily true.  A curious person doesn’t just take someone’s word for it; they discover the truth for themselves.  The curious dig deep into the details, and when they finish their detective work, they don’t only know “what” or “when”, they know “how” and “why”.
3. You Will Release Your Inner Child – Children are curious.  They are like an empty canvas, waiting to be filled with knowledge and experiences.  They don’t have predetermined expectations fogging their judgment.  Children absorb the world around with an open mind driven by sheer curiosity.  Curiosity can help open your mind too.
4. You Will Experience Something Fresh – New experiences are one of the most exciting acts of living.  They simulate your mind and free your creative emotion, thus liberating your thoughts from the tension of a daily routine.  Be curious, be daring, be alive!  Go discover something fresh.
5. You Will Increase Your Productivity – A curious mind dives beneath the surface of common acceptance to unravel the details driving the process.  The more you comprehend the details, the better you will understand the process.  Thus, the more productive you will be.
6. You Will Learn More Often – When your curiosity steers you into the unknown you will return with a greater wealth of knowledge.  You will stretch the boundaries of your mind.  The more you learn, the more you will want to know.  Every new awareness will lead you to another stimulating challenge.
7. You Will Become More Efficient – Curious people look at a challenge from multiple angles.  They discover alternative ways of accomplishing the same task.  The greater the pool of possible solutions, the more likely it is that they will expose a better way to get things done.
8. You Will Experience a Spice of Variety – Variety is the spice of life, at least that’s what the curious folks understand.  There is nothing more boring than repetition.  When you allow your curiosity to send you in new directions you add variety into your life.  This could be as simple as eating at a new restaurant or taking a new route to work.  Don’t confine yourself, go explore.
9. You Will Be More Positive – It is much easier to be negative about something than it is to be positive.  If you don’t understand something, or it is unusual to your senses, it’s easy to write it off as being useless or dumb.  Only when you truly understand something will you be able to appreciate it.  Human beings tend to be more positive toward the things they understand.  Curiosity naturally broadens a person’s horizons, and thus their understanding of the things around them.
10. You Will Establish New Relationships – Your curiosity will lead you down roads you would otherwise not have traveled.  On occasion you will almost certainly want to stop and look around.  You never know, you may bump into someone you have a lot in common with. (herethesource)

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a little better; whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is the meaning of success." --- Ralph Waldo Emerson